We live in a world where people prefer to live by sight than to live by faith. We live in a world where people judge a book by its cover and prefer not to check the content of the book because they are done with their assumptions. We live in a world where people hold on to first impressions without looking back at the next impression.

There was a day I spoke rudely to a lady because I was tensed and very vexed with her behavior. During this period, there was a lady that was watching me keenly, and that was the first time she saw me after she had heard a lot of nice things about me. She addressed me and publicly told me that she was disappointed with my behavior and it would take a lot of effort to correct the fact that I am a responsible person. She was not concerned with the reason why I behaved that way, all she was concerned with was the fact that I behaved that way. This impressions stuck in her mind, and it took a lot of effort to change that impression.

Communication expert confirm this by saying that people judge you in the first four seconds and then finalize their opinions about you in the next thirty seconds. It takes a whole lot of work to always change this first impressions that’s why you need to always have a solid first impression. Many people have lost contracts, jobs, scholarships and grants because of first impressions.

I have carefully figured out three questions you always need to ask yourself.

QUESTION 1: If someone was to meet you for the very first time, what would they think about you?

QUEESTION 2: If you meet someone for the first time, what do you want them to think about you?

QUESTION 3: How can you strike the balance between question one and two together with the way you talk, dress, think, behave, comport yourself, and more importantly address others?

Look at the leaders you admire, the role-models you cherish so much, how do they dress, behave, think, reason and comport themselves and how they address people. What first impression did they create that made you to fall in love with them?

Remember that you are a winner, so always learn to act and think like one.

Seun Emmanuel Alaofin


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