9 STEPS TO IMPROVING SELF-ESTEEM
If you want to improve your self-esteem, here are some steps to start empowering yourself:
1. Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself: If you’re used to focusing on your shortcomings, start thinking about positive aspects of yourself that outweigh them. When you catch yourself being too critical, counter it by saying something positive about yourself. Each day, write down three things about yourself that make you happy.
2. Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection.
3. View mistakes as learning opportunities: Accept that you will make mistakes because everyone does. Mistakes are part of learning. Remind yourself that a person’s talents are constantly developing, and everyone excels at different things — it’s what makes people interesting.
4. Recognize what you can change and what you can’t: If you realize that you’re unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, and then start today. If it’s something you can’t change (like your height), then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.
5. Set goals: Think about what you’d like to accomplish, and then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress.
6. Take pride in your opinions and ideas. Don’t be afraid to voice them.
7. Make a contribution: Tutor a classmate who’s having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walkathon for a good cause, or volunteer your time in some other way. Feeling like you’re making a difference and that your help is valued can do wonders to improve self-esteem.
8. Have fun: Ever found yourself thinking stuff like “I’d have more friends if I were thinner”? Enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. Relax and have a good time — and avoid putting your life on hold.
9. It’s never too late to build healthy, positive self-esteem. In some cases where the emotional hurt is deep or long lasting, it can require the help of a mental health professional, like a counselor or therapist. These experts can act as a guide, helping people learn to love themselves and realize what’s unique and special about them.